My husband called me ugly, says he wished he chose a lighter-skinned woman to bear his kids – Lady writes

An African-American woman, Marie Cherilien, has stated that 85% of black men suffer from internalized racism and prefer lighter-skinned women.   She stated this in a Facebook post on Sunday, October 4, 2026 after her husband called her ugly, saying he wished he had chosen a lighter-skinned woman to be the mother of his children.  While admitting that his cruel words left her in shock, she chose not to react the way her old self would have because she has grown to love herself, adding that she has outgrown her husband years ago.  Despite the lack of love in their marriage, she noted that they share three successful businesses, two properties and three children together.  She advised dark-skinned women to vet their partners to ensure they don’t have internalized racism. “Black men prefer lighter skin women by 85% plus. If you are on the dark skin side of blackness, you need to vet him whether or not he is a coon,” she wrote. Never understood how my husband can call me all of these cruel names, today he called me ugly while I was holding our 4 year old son.  “He said I was ugly and I can see why your mama treated you the way she did and called you ugly as a child” no one wants you and I wish I would have chosen a lighter woman for the mother of my children.  Whew I was lost for words but silent because I know who I am and I’ve grown to love myself the way I am, the old me would have reacted but I am at a time in my life where I am healing, I outgrew my husband years ago. We have 3 successful businesses, 2 properties and 3 kids.  On the way to school the other day, my daughter said we are only business partners living in the same house and laughed, I am surprised she noticed that.  My children doesn’t even see love in our marriage, that’s heartbreaking.   

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